Five Things I’ve Learned About Blogging

Some of my best post ideas come to me when I’m not even trying to scheme up posts. Todays was no different. I was lying in bed, trying to sleep, when I had the overwhelming urge to share a little more info about where I am as a blogger. If you’ve been following me along, for the past year, I hope you’ve noticed some changes.

Changes like… 

#1 I do way less sponsored content. All of the content I do now is because it shows up in my inbox. I no longer look for work.

#2 I went from posting 5-6 days a week to 3 MAYBE 4.

#3 I no longer co-host 85 (kidding) link-ups. I’m less and less stretched and have taken a lot off my plate.

Changes like this came from having some pretty amazing realizations. Ones that I have intensely thought about, AKA wrestled with, for days and weeks on end. Some of the changes have been hard but the others have been really easy. In fact, some of the changes have made me want to change even more!

But the one thing that has been consistent through the whole process is the peace I have felt. I have been way less stressed out & way more content. Those two things make me a MUCH nicer person to be around. Let me share the details on what has worked for me. 

5 Things I've Learned About Blogging. Ways I've changed and learned to embrace a less is more mentality.

I Don’t Need to Post New Content EVERY DAY!

Insert flashing lightbulb here! When I freed myself from posting 5-6 days a week I cut a HUGE amount of work off my load. I realized it was okay to not do it all. Plus I don’t need to anymore since I am blogging with intention instead of just grasping for things to post about.

There was such freedom that came from realizing that if I didn’t blog every week day. The sky wouldn’t fall, my readers wouldn’t think I had fallen in a hole and even better than that, they would still read my blog the next time I posted. Bloggers can disappear and still return. They don’t even need to tell anyone they are taking a day off or apologize for their absence.

If you are like the old me, and this is very hard for you to wrap your brain around, reread it until it sinks in.

It’s Okay to Not Read EVERY  Blog, EVERY day.

This one is fairly new for me and I am still working on embracing it, but it has been so good. When talking to a friend about blogging less we wondered what to do about reading other people’s blogs, especially on the days we don’t blog ourselves. All in all we decided to free ourselves from feeling like we had to read every single post that shows up in our BlogLovin feed. It isn’t because we don’t love the blogs in my feed, but it is to embrace the less is more mentality and to actually take a day off from blogging. On the days that I don’t blog I skim through my feed and read what really catches my eye, marking some of the others read. 

Know How To Slay Your Monsters.

Bloggers are their own worst enemies. I understand that when you invest time and effort in something it is good to see it grow. But at what point do you say enough and quit beating yourself up over numbers, followers, page views, & pinnable content?!

Want to know a secret? I don’t look at my numbers, EVER. The only numbers I see are follower counts that are displayed on platforms I use. Obsessing over numbers was stealing my joy, so I slayed the monster and put an end to that game. 

There Are SO Many Bloggers.

Some people say that blogging is dying, but I am not sure that is true. There are SO many bloggers. If I had a dollar for every time someone brought up wanting to monetize a blog as soon as they hear I’m a blogger, I’d be rich. The truth is, unless you are The Pioneer Woman blogging is famine or feast and free products just don’t pay the bills.

Standing out in the world of blogging is a hard, hard thing to do unless you’ve done something very extreme to set yourself apart. There are countless basic moms just like me out there and the ultimate truth is that I’m not special. But, I’m okay with that. I’ve found my tribe and I will be loyal to them. I don’t need the masses. 

There Are WAY more Important Things Than Blogging.

A while back I had the realizations that instead of building a blog, I was building an idol. That felt more like a punch to the gut than anything. After all, I highly doubt there will ever be a day that I wish I had worked harder on the blog. But I have no doubt that I will regret the period of my life that I placed the blog above other way more important things & people.

Scaling back the amount of work that goes into this site has helped me to regain control of where I am investing my time and I am making much wiser choices. If I ever find myself going back to a place where blogging is trumping what truly matters, I will be pulling the plug and calling it quits. Those days are over friends.

I hope this post helps someone. I hope you hear it from the humble place it is meant to come from. I know that what I want may be quite different from others. But I hear so many people so discontent with what blogging has become for them. It doesn’t have to be that way friends.

Tell me one thing you have learned about blogging?

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  • Heather Bramlett

    Girl I had these realizations not to long ago and when I scaled back and just focused on what made me happy, I felt like a new woman. and I haven’t even been blogging for 2 years. It was taking over my life. I do feel better at planning out my blog post and if they don’t happen…oh well! Life will go on!
    Thank you SO much for sharing!! and being honest….

    • You can always guarantee that I have no problem being honest. So glad you learned these things two years sooner than I did. UGH! Last year was the worst for me.

  • This marks year five of blogging for me and I never went into it trying to make a buck. I just thought it was fun and a good place to share some stuff I kinda know about – kinda being the keyword. Every day I say I’m done! LOL I swear, every morning I’m like – Yeah not today, not anymore. I don’t post regularly as you can tell! I think I will cut back even more as the fall progresses. I do LOVE the people I have met through blogging – that is what has made it worth it! xo

    • That is totally the only thing that keeps me going. I also love knowing that if I did call it quits it wouldn’t mean saying good bye to those friendships. Cutting back more and more has been so good. It almost makes me wonder how quitting would feel. I definitely am considering a sabbatical at some point.

  • Living on Cloud Nine

    Oh Beth..this is perfect and I think what so many of us are feeling! I used to blog everyday but it was too much. Less stress makes blogging more fun and puts the love back in it. Planning posts in advance is the key so there is no pressure but I too say I’m done every week but like my dear friend Amanda just said, it’s the people that make it worth it…like YOU!!!

    • Yes it does! It was taking my life away obsessing over stupid blog posts. I hated what it had become. I love hearing so many people relate to feeling done, but none of us seem to be able to pull that trigger. If I ever do, I love knowing that friendships have formed that go far deeper than blogging. Y’all are the best.

  • Three boys and a girl blog

    this was such a perfect post!! so needed to read this. I have felt this way the past several weeks, maybe even months. I have stopped caring and blogging for others. I now blog for myself. If I don’t get a post up, oh well. Life will go on! I am so tired of hunting for content. I want to write about what I want to write about! Thanks for sharing beth!

    • YES! So glad to hear this was encouraging & helpful for you to read. I always love sharing things like that.

  • Great truth here! I think part of this is the maturing of blogging. The blogging world has become saturated, and in some ways it has lost it’s shiny new obsessive appeal. That doesn’t mean people don’t still love them. It’s more like they’ve become a magazine instead of a daily newspaper. πŸ™‚

    • I absolutely adore that analogy. SO good Rebecca.

  • Jessica

    Oh Beth, I love this so much! SO MUCH! Everything you said is true, especially the part about there being so many bloggers. I read all the time people who want to be a big time blogger, but in reality it isn’t going to happen because 1 there are SO many bloggers out there and 2 because unless you have branded yourself in some way (teaching, cooking, traveling, etc) there’s just too many people. This seriously speaks the truth so much and made me so happy. Love ya!

    • I knew you would definitely relate to this post friend. Thank you SO much for your support and sweet words. Love ya too!

  • Lizzie Simantz

    I’m right there with ya sister! I use to think I had to have new content everyday and one day I just said, nope, not stressing about that! And it’s been nice!!

    • Glory, glory! Amen!!! My life has been nothing but better because of it.

  • This is wonderful!!so glad you are doing what’s best for you and your family

    • Thank you so much friend. It has been so good.

  • Yes this is so true! I have cut back too and feel like weight has been lifting. Although sometimes hard, but so worth it to just spend more quality time with the family actually making memories instead of forcing them πŸ™‚

    • That last sentence that you wrote was perfection friend. Love, LOVE, freaking love it.

  • I think so many of these things only another blogger can truly understand. Learning I don’t have to put out new content every day was the toughest for me right along side budgeting the time to pull together quality posts. The struggle has been real to find balance lately. And yes….soooo many blogs, soooo little time so it is inconceivable that anyone could keep up with reading every blog, every day. Thanks for sharing your thoughts Beth!

    • Yes! I had set these unrealistic expectations on myself and the weight just got to be too much. Glad I took a load off and I actually don’t dread this space anymore.

  • shootingstarsmag

    There are SO many blogs – and people do often become a bit disillusioned as to why they started blogging in the first place, or they start one thinking they can make a ton of money. It’s important to love blogging and find a rhythm/schedule that works for you.


    • SO true! I don’t think anyone starts for the money and if they do they probably don’t last very long, lololol!

  • tacy

    Yes! A while back, I realized popularity had me in a choke hold, and I would never be satisfied if popularity was my goal. I learned to see accomplishment differently. One kind comment, or one worthwhile SM interaction. That means I’ve touched at least one person with my thoughts/blogging/life/pictures and that is worth it. And my mantra is: seek to be worth knowing, rather than be well known.

    • SO good Tacy. I mean really, really good stuff there. Thank you so much for sharing that. Popularity choke holds so many and they don’t even realize it has a grip on them.

  • Damn girl, you know how to hit me right in the feels!! You speak such truth friend! Blogging really is a cut throat world, and if you let yourself get wrapped up in it (#guilty) then you will always be stressed. I’ve barely been looking at my numbers lately, and trying to take a deep breath when I do, since I know they will be lower than the past few months (since I’m not in as many share groups). At any rate, thanks for speaking the truth! πŸ™‚

    • Just say no friend, don’t do it!!! Then you have nothing to prep yourself for. Haha!

      I am always a fan of lovingly speaking truth. Glad the post spoke to your heart.

  • DazzleWhileFrazzled

    Thanks for this post! I’m finishing up my second year of blogging and have had to stop doing many of the trappings I fell into thinking that’s what I had to do (because it’s what I read in a FB group). I’ve learned to unsubscribe to so many sites that are selling me courses on blogging and am constantly reminding myself why I started a blog in the first place. I do need to be better about not looking at numbers. That’s a hard habit to break! Visiting from Tuesday Talk party.

    • The traps are SO plentiful. Especially seeing most of those group are FILLED with people dying to make it big. I am so glad you are making positive changes so much sooner than I ever did. Thanks for stopping by!

  • Thank you so much for this post Beth! I always try to read as much as I can about blogging and take all the advice I can. Yours means a lot. I loved reading it. One thing I have learned is that blogging is so much more of a community than I thought it would be. I though no one but my mom would read my blog and I have found so many wonderful friends because of blogging. I also have learned that if I miss a day, the world keeps on spinning. That one was really hard for me to grasp. Thank you for sharing what is on your heart!

    • It totally is! Some of my very best friends, I have met via blogging and never met in real life, lololol! It was SO hard for me to grasp too. But the less I blog, the more I love it. I just wish I had slowed down sooner. You are so welcome.

  • I couldn’t agree with this more, Beth! I’ve always had the stance that it’s not necessary to post every day and that you take on what you can. It’s very rare that someone makes it big time blogging and those that do have a whole team of people behind the scenes that we don’t always see. It’s nice to share when you want and when you have something to say. I’m glad you found your balance and can enjoy it more. xo Sierra, Beautifully Candid

    • SO true! People that make it big time probably don’t even do half of the work to maintain there standing. Thank you so much for reading the post and leaving a nice comment. Finding my balance has been amazing. I just wish I had done it sooner.

  • Lisa Richardson

    I really needed to read this, Beth! Thanks for putting it in black and white and sharing. I think bloggers do struggle with all of these things. It’s so easy to become obsessed and the whole comparison game can be paralyzing. You nailed it. You’ve seriously got me thinking about cutting out one day from my weekly schedule to ease up on myself. XO

    • DO it!!! I scaled back slowly and the more I cut back, the happier I have been. Worst case you try it and don’t like it. But I don’t expect that to happen at all!

  • Such great points! I’ve cut back a lot too and I’ve really been at peace with it!

    • SO much peace with just letting things go. Glad you feel it too.

  • #4 – ALL THE YES!!!! These days it seems like EVERYBODY is a blogger. Some of the link-ups that I do are freaking HUGE with hundreds of bloggers linking up their latest craft or treat or home decor and it’s just baffling. We are tiny fish in a huge ocean and these days every single market is SO SATURATED that it’s nearly impossible to be unique and stand out. You already know how hard I’m trying to make some sort of side income so I can quit my day job, but it’s just not going to happen with blogging. Now I just have to try to find peace with that. It’s so hard.

    • It IS so hard and I am sorry that you had to have that realization girl. Maybe you could sell your house and go off grid and blog about it… Oh wait, that doesn’t really make any sense does it. I was just trying to be extreme to make you popular among the masses. But realistically even if you can monetize a blog, I did pretty well last year but not enough to live off of, you would be working SO much you might as well just have a job. Because the time you spend “working at home” is not quality time anyways. UGH. I just wish we all had money trees.

  • Jeremy Barnes

    I’ve never understood how people are able to get new content out everyday. I’ve cut back on the amount of linkups that I join, finding that its actaully the smaller ones that I get the most out of

    • They are miserable, exhausted people, lol. Nothing but experience talking there :P.

  • Dear JW, you are the brightest prettiest light in my over stressed blogging life. I know this has been something we’ve been battling for a while, both not knowing the what ifs and you know…this new freedom, this new independence has been fantastic. I owe it all to you and talking me off the ledge month after month. I love you more than books #thatsreallove

    • And then I got really girly and wanted to cry all the tears after reading this. That IS real love. Love you too friend, so much.

  • After all of our recent conversations you already know that I love and can relate to this post in so many ways! Yes. Just yes. Love you, friend!

    • Yes! I knew I could count on my girls to love and support this post. I am so glad I took the time to write it out and share it with everyone.

  • Yes to ALL of this! I learned to let go of a lot of things over the past year, and although I’m still coming to terms with the changes, they were necessary and I’m a much more relaxed person because of it!

    • So good friend. There is just no way that we can do it all. So happy you got some of your sanity back.

  • Whitney Jordan

    Yes yes yes! Great advice. I’m glad you’ve made changes that help you to enjoy this space more. I always love reading what you write. I’ve reworked what I’m doing on the blog and am so much happier. I have found a good routine that works for me and is really enjoyable. It feels so good to blog on your own terms πŸ™‚

    • So good! I dont exactly have anything set in stone, but I love the weeks that I only post 3 days. I want more of that and I am possibly looking at taking a sabbatical, at least I will take off for all of Christmas break this year… I think. Just keeping with the less is more is all I can wrap my brain around right now.

  • I like blogging way more when I play by my own rules. Some days I’m super motivated and others I forget it exists. Whatevs. It’s my blog and really only my mom would miss it.

    • I kind of doubt that is completely true, but I adore your attitude on the whole thing.

  • So thankful I read this today! Great wisdom in your advice. Thank you for speaking truth into my heart!


    • You are so welcome. Thank you so much for your sweet comment and for reading my post.

  • FRIEND, you are SPECIAL and those who know you are lucky!! And Im still holding hope for that IRL meeting!

    • Oh my word. Such a happy comment to see pop up as I am sitting here replying to others.

      I adore you sweet friend. I would love nothing more than to give you a big ol’ hug.

  • You are so wise, and it is good you are sharing this! We can only do what we can do, and stretching ourselves thin has some serious costs. I am glad though we are friends in this crazy blogging world πŸ™‚

    • Oh me too. Thank you so much for your sweet words Jen.

  • So good friend! I know when I stepped back from blogging every day and looking at the numbers, freedom came! Blogging can be so fun when you let go of all the stress

    • Freedom is such a sweet thing. Letting go of the stress has been SO good for me.

  • Great advice!

  • Oh my goodness, #2! I used to feel so guilty if I didn’t read every blog on my list each day. But sometimes life is just TOO BUSY for that. And that’s the awesome thing about archives, right? πŸ™‚

    • So true. I never expect my readers to read every blog post, why do I think others do.

  • Great post and I agree with it all! I think the biggest takeaway for me was when I came back to blogging after almost a year off… I make sure I am blogging for ME. If I feel forced to post, or am struggling to write – I don’t. I don’t want blogging to be a chore for me. It’s a hobby and something I love to do. Forcing myself to write/post was stealing the joy from it. <3

    • Almost a year off?! Wow. I think if I took that long off I may never come back. It is neat to hear that you were able to though. It makes me feel like if I did decide to shut things down for a while, it wouldn’t have to be forever.