In the spirit of being completely honesty, I avoided writing this blog post for pretty much the entire day on Sunday… and Monday. I was lost at the direction I wanted to take and the advice I wanted to give on the topic of marriage. Do I look at the marriage Russ and I have and feel like we have things are going well for us, yes! But putting into words the details on how we are doing that throws me for a loop. Now would also be a good time to point out that we certainly have our fair share of disagreements and annoyances. Our relationship is by no means perfect.
Finally, after staring at the computer screen and trying to get my thoughts organized for what felt like forever, I decided to just start writing. Wouldn’t you know it worked like a charm. I don’t think what I have to share is anything groundbreaking or new, but I do hope it encourages you to work on strengthening your marriage.
Just one year shy of a decade.
Nine years ago we said I do.
To have and to hold from this day forward,
For better, for worse,
For richer, for poorer,
In sickness and in health,
To love and to cherish,
Til death do us part.
Nine years ago we had no idea that we would have two amazing girls that we would be so proud to call ours. We never imagined that when we did have children, we would choose to homes school them. Building a home and two old cars seemed like something we would never be able to accomplish, physically and financially.
We had no clue the love, grace, truth, and friendships we would find in a church and the pain we would feel when that chapter of our life came to an end. We couldn’t fathom the thought that we would see our home destroyed by a tornado and through that loss so much good would come to our lives. Where sorrow began, there was joy in the end.
I had no idea how much he would make me laugh. Year, after year, after year. And that 9 years later his hugs would still be the thing that makes me feel safe, untouchable, like no matter what happens everything is going to be okay.
Our life together isn’t always roses.
It is far from easy and our love story is full of flaws and brokenness that led us together.
But any rough day that comes is worth it.
Russell Todd Newman I love you immensely.
I love your grumpy faces in the mornings, the way you tease me even when it makes me mad, and the hard worker and amazing father that you are. I always have been and always will be proud to call you mine.