One Important Summer Sanity Saver For Moms

Today I am so excited to have Ruthie from RearReleaseRegroup.com sharing a piece of her heart and talking about her new ebook Count to Nine, 9 Liberating Steps for Mom Anger and Frustration. Ruthie is a treasure friends. A seasoned mom, with excellent advice and she doesn’t shy away from talking about the hard things… like mom anger. In the spirit of being completely open I have had my fair share of struggles with this department and Ruthie’s advice helps to keep me grounded. I hope you love getting to know her and listening to what she has to say.

Happy summer, mom! Kids about to stress you out from constant requests and squabbling? Need a summer sanity saver?

One important thing to help moms stay sane during the summer months.
Let me ask you a question: How often do you yell when you’re frustrated? Does it develop into a full-blown scream? Are you having trouble keeping a lid on your temper, and does it seem impossible to overcome?

I’m a mama of four grown kids so I’m not pointing any fingers! I’ve been there, and I feel ya, sis.

Most moms have anger issues. Sometimes we’re just too embarrassed to admit we need help.

Here’s what I’m learning:

The Importance of Scripture

When Christ was tempted of the Devil, He refuted him with Scripture every single time (Luke 4:1-14), and He was strengthened by it.

And Jesus returned in the power of the spirit to Galilee (v 14), ESV.

 

Think of it! Christ, Who had all power, was strengthened through the Word. How much more then, should we use God’s Word when tempted?

Scripture is our sword – our weapon, our main defense in the battle over anger. Its our summer sanity saver.

Kids are stressful, there’s no denying it. It takes a lot of fortitude to deal. Eventually, you get worn down by the day-to-day, and you kick into survival mode.

But God wants to use you, even then. When you think, “There’s no way I can make it through this day without losing it,” you feel despair, and I know how that is.

BUT.

God’s power is limitless! It is like nothing you can ever imagine. And so, He wants us to be mold-able. That’s all. Be the clay. He does the rest. By being clay, you choose to trust.

Jesus said,

You’re blessed when you’re at the end of your rope. With less of you, there is more of God and His rule. Matthew 5:3, The Message

 

WOW.

If we say yes to God, He can do amazing things in us that we never thought possible.

I’ve seen it happen in my own life –victory over areas I’ve struggled with for years. How? Through our greatest weapon: the Word.

Pray the Word. Memorize the Word. Write it on 3×5 index cards and post all over your house (especially frequented areas such as the kitchen window and bathroom mirror).

God will help you with your frustration and anger!

We can learn to overcome the temper by committing it to the Lord through prayer and Scripture. God wants us to succeed – remember, mom, He’s on YOUR side!

Since Scripture can be our summer sanity saver, I want to introduce to you a brand new, valuable summer sanity saver that contains Scripture and Scripture prayers! The preceding devotional is just a snippet from a book I wrote on mommy anger. It’s called, COUNT TO NINE; 9 Liberating Steps for Mommy Anger and Frustration.

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I wrote this ebook because as a mom of four myself, I dealt with a LOT of anger down through the rearing years, and I struggled to handle it well. As I seek to mentor younger moms, I notice this same pattern emerging.

A battle with anger-induced rage. And these moms want change.

My new ebook, Count to Nine, 9 Liberating Steps for Mom Anger and Frustration, presents nine essential steps to overcome mishandled anger. Offering Scripture Pillars, Power-Packed Pillar Prayers, a Plan of Attack for each chapter, and much more, this book will set you on the road towards recovery. The book is full of key Biblical strategies to help you parent gracefully and learn the Biblical approach to anger.

How do I know? I teach this method to a group of moms who are tracking wins and overcoming their anger by daily implementing these Scriptural strategies!

This book is a small investment to make toward a big difference in the dynamic of your family. Are you ready to take the necessary steps to freedom from the power of anger gone wrong?

You can do this, mom. Let me show you how through COUNT TO NINE. At just $7.00, this ebook is an affordable investment toward not only developing positive reactions to anger, but patterning them for your children as well!

I’m praying for you!

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PS As an extra BONUS to the book, we’ve included a beautiful, printable journal with Scripture cards and Thankful cards, designed by my friend Jessica through her Etsy shop! You will love this actionable, gorgeous addition to the book! Grab your copy today!


I know what it's like to struggle with anger. As a mom of four and Gigi of two, I've been in your shoes. This is a plan to get you started in the right direction. Won't you join me?

Ruthie Gray is a wife, mom of four, Gigi, and caregiver, living in the sandwich generation and blogging to keep her sanity. When she’s not snacking on plastic drumsticks with her grandson (The Tiny Tornado), or snuggling his sister (Baby Cakes), you can find her coaching other moms on how to raise responsible kids and enjoy them at RearReleaseRegroup.com and Mom Time Out. You can also connect with Ruthie on Facebook.

My Perfectly Imperfect Faith

This isn’t what I wanted to post about today. 

Penciled neatly into my brand new planner was a recap of the month of June according to #’s. It was supposed to be easy to write, something I could schedule way in advance and a light-hearted post for a Monday morning. However, my heart has felt everything but light lately. What I planned to post and what I feel I should post are two very different things. In the end my heart won out and now I’m sitting here unsure of where I should start.

Over the past week I was slammed with a phrase, by someone very close to me, that I can’t stop thinking about. Their words were spoken out of anger when my actions didn’t meet their approval. I have been thinking about any truth that could be found in their statement but more than that the lies that live in the head of someone who would say these words.

“And you’re supposed to be a Christian”

Phrase it 10 different ways if you’d like, the variations are countless. This phrase is likely one that anyone following after Christ for any amount of time has been attacked with in one way or another. The thing is this. I can’t help but think a person who accuses someone with these words is void of any understanding about what being a Christian truly means.

The world sometimes holds Christians to an unattainable level of perfection. Are Christians really perfect?
Being a Christian does not mean that you are free of temptation or sin. It doesn’t mean that you make the right choice every time. It doesn’t give you a strong marriage, all the money you need, well-behaved children, and an annoyingly effortless love for people. Being a Christian doesn’t give you super powers.

The problem with this accusation is that it comes with the impression that being a Christian makes you perfect, which simply put is a lie. The truth is there was only one person who ever lived a perfect, sinless life and he gave himself as a sacrifice to pay for our sins, my sins, the sins I continually struggle with every moment of every day.

And that is what is tearing me apart. That people buy into lies that Christians actually believe they are perfect. That someone expects me to live a perfect life and if I stumble I have not only given them a reason to mock me , but an excuse to continue living a life void of a relationship with God.

Where do I go from here? First I’d like to say that I’m not angry and forgive the person for the words they spoke. I love them very much and will continue to pray for them daily. Secondly I’d like to repent. If this false image of Christian perfection is one that I have portrayed through my words and actions, I am sorry. I want to live a life that is pleasing to God and continuously points others to him, through good times and bad.

For I am not ashamed of the gospel, for it is the power of God for salvation to everyone who believes, to the Jew first and also to the Greek.For in it the righteousness of God is revealed from faith for faith, as it is written, “The righteous shall live by faith.” Romans 1:17 ESV

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Thank You God For This Day

It started just like any other morning would: Trip to the gym, mom life all day, and some blog work scattered in between. I picked up Russ from work and as I was walking in the door my phone rang, finally. I frantically dug through my purse finding everything except the phone I so desperately wanted. After digging for what felt like forever I answered. “Hello?!” I heard “Is this Emily’s mom?” to which I answered “This is she.” And from that point of the conversation onward things just spiraled and something in me broke.

I stood in the quiet retreat of my closet for minutes after hanging up the phone. It is always the best place to take a phone calls… and to hide. At that moment hiding is exactly what I wanted to do. I braced myself against the wall, the tears began to flow, and I asked the question we all gravitate towards in hard times. 

Why? 

I had told myself I wouldn’t be upset. I told myself it was only a chance. I told myself that if God wanted it to work out, it would. I wouldn’t put my hope in it, I would put my home in God. But when He answered with a no, I crumbled. I felt helpless, scared and angry.

I hid in that closet for as long as I could, but knew I would soon be missed. Dinner time went something like forgotten ingredients, over cooked tater tots, burnt green beans, and a husband who pitched in to do half of the work because I was physically in the kitchen, but mentally somewhere else. The only good parts of the meal were the ones he handled, if not for his help we would have ended up with cereal for sure. In the last-minute chaos to get everyone to the table before the food was cold Marissa asked if I would pray for our meal. Sure, why not! I just wanted to eat.

My prayer started like this “Thank you God for this day” and then I stopped. In my head I wanted to go on but I physically couldn’t continue to speak. My throat swelled, my eyes flooded with tears, and no words came out.

Giving thanks to God in the hard times of life.
Thank you God for this day. 

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Finally I mustered the strength to quickly finish my prayer but afterwards I sat there thinking on the words that had just choked me up. Thank you God for this day. THIS day? This day sucked. Looking back on this day there was no earthly reason to feel any thanks. Yet when I turned to speak to my Father, my heart immediately thanked Him. Call it what you want a routine way to start a prayer or a chance but at that exact moment God used those 6 simple words to speak to me.

I was reminded of the grace he shows us, the love he pours upon us and the faithfulness he has shown us on so many other days and seasons of our life when it seemed like we had nothing to be thankful for.

Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good; his love endures forever.
1 Chronicles 16:34

Thank you God for this Day.

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Scriptures To Stand On, Clinging To God’s Word

Oh how life has been a whirlwind lately. In these moments of life when things are hectic and tiring it is easy to be tossed around. Lately I have felt like I am floundering, grasping. My faith that God is always good in ALL things is unshaken, but to continue clinging tightly to that I have to root myself firmly into the word of God.

The community that I have found in the world of blogging has been amazing. So much love and so much support. Messages, comments, emails, and texts have been abundant. I know that in this rough season of life we are being wrapped in prayer. Recently I reached out to some other bloggers and asked them to send me scriptures that they can stand upon during life’s tough times. I was so encouraged when so many sent me verses that they find truth and life in. 

Today I want to share a few of those with you.

Scriptures to stand on during any season of life.
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Keri – Living In This Season

For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.
2 Timothy 1:7

Whitney –  Work It Mommy & Becky – BYBMG

For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.
Jeremiah 29:11

Holly – While I’m Waiting

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding
Proverbs 3:6

Stephanie – Wife Mommy Me

Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good.
Romans 12:9

Michelle – Grammie Time

Do not be afraid, for I am your God, I will strengthen you; I will help you; I will hold on to you with My righteous right hand.
Isaiah 41:10

Ruthie – Rear Release Regroup

Peace I leave with you;  My peace I give unto you.  Not as the world gives, give I unto you.  Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.
John 14:27

Jessica – Sweet Little Ones

…he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for power is made perfect in weakness.’  I will rather boast most gladly of my weaknesses, in order that the power of Christ may dwell with me.  Therefore, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and constraints, for the sake of Christ; for when I am weak, then I am strong.
2 Corinthians 12:9-10

Tina – Go Big Or Go Home

A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.
Luke 6:45b

Laureen – Chateau Deveau

You have been told, O man, what is good, and what the Lord requires of you: Only to do right and to love goodness, and to walk humbly with your God.
Micah 6:8

Emily – Dear Owen

He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.
40:29-31

Crystal – Hall Around Texas

Restore to me the joy of your salvation, and uphold me with a willing spirit.
Psalm 51:12

For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us.
Romans 8:18

Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice.
Philippians 4:4

And here are a couple that I have loved over the years.

I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.
John 16:33

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.
Philippians 4:6-8

It is my hope and prayer that these verses speak to you in good times and bad, just like they have spoken to these women. So many of these verses were sent to me along side stories of difficult times and faith in a God who is bigger than any circumstance or problem.

Let us hold tightly to the one who holds all things together in the palm of His hand.

What verse do you stand on?

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Waiting, Tuesday Talk V16

Lately life has felt like one giant roller coaster ride and if I am being honest, I just want to get off.
I don’t want to adult anymore.

Ever feel that way?

When Emily barely bumped her head two weeks ago her eyes went crossed.

Emily eyes
I was scared to death.
Just imagine your child looking right at you like this for just a moment.
A child who had just woken up seemingly normal. 

Er visits, ophthalmologist visits, optometrist visits, visual testing, consultations, we’ve done it all. Each appointment is harder than the last to wait for. I wanted Emily’s vision fixed yesterday. The thought that she is running around seeing the world so unclear is tormenting this mama’s heart. I know she has adapted over the years, kids are resilient, and she doesn’t know any better.

Waiting is still hard.

Emily Eye
Diagnosis so far have included: astigmatism, extremely far-sighted (even once she has glasses she will only see 60/20 out of her right eye), esotropia, strabismus, & convergence insufficiency. We go to our last appointment this morning and I feel a pit in my stomach over it. We want to do what is best for Emily. We want Emily to have EVERY opportunity to overcome her visual difficulties now,  before they begin to affect her education. But with no guarantees and the insanely high & uncovered cost of vision therapy we are feeling all of the emotions.

Goggles
In my head I think I imagined things being much more surface level and easier to fix. I didn’t imagine things being this emotional, frustrating, or complicated. I feel plagued with guilt over how I am coping with all of this. Reminders that we have so much to be thankful for and it could be worse are supposed to spur me to thankfulness, but they just seem to pile feelings of guilt onto the other array of emotions I have.

I know I should be thankful, I know this all was discovered in Gods perfect timing, I know I should rejoice in the Lord ALWAYS, but I just don’t feel it right now.

So where does that leave me?
Waiting

Right now in this moment when I don’t feel like rejoicing in the Lord, I will wait on Him knowing this. 

But they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength;
    they shall mount up with wings like eagles;
they shall run and not be weary;
    they shall walk and not faint.
Isaiah 40:31

I will wait and I will trust in a God who has never once forsaken us.
That He is Good in ALL things.

Until my heart can rejoice, I will wait upon Him.

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Struggling To Smile, How I Fight Depression

This post is the second post of a two-part series

About a month ago I opened up about my struggle with seasonal depression, the hopeless feeling that can so quickly engulf me. Part of being able to fight against depression has been being able to identify the early stages and recognizing the things that can trigger it.

Today I am going to share a bit about how that looks in my life and a few things that help me shake it off.
(Your totally singing Taylor Swift in your head right now, aren’t you?!)

Tips to help combat seasonal depression.

My Triggers

Being stuck at home for multiple days in a row.
Even though I hit up the gym most mornings, not breaking my routine and getting out can get me down really fast.

Spending too much time alone.
Relationships are good, healthy and part of Gods plan for our lives. Spending too much time alone gives me to many opportunities to hide. 

Not using a creative outlet.
God gives us gifts and talents so we can use them for good.

Playing the comparison game.
Do I really need to say more? So many moms fall victim to the game of comparison. 

Finding my worth in things that won’t satisfy.
When I invest too much time and value into things that have real no worth I may feel good about it for a few days or hours, but it usually leaves me feeling frustrated, confused and empty.

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How I fight Back

Get out of the house!
Coffee runs, solo trips to the store, shopping trips with a friend, Bible studies, women’s church functions you name it, do it. Not only does it feel great to not stare at the same walls all day long it gives you a reason to get out of those sweat pants. Which is always a good thing.

Seek out friendship.
Sometimes we forget as grown women that we still need friends too. Finding someone or a few someones that you can share your life with makes a huge difference. I remember a time in my life, when Marissa was a baby, that I cried and prayed for God to bring me a friend. He exceedingly answered my prayers. 

Check out this post that Keri from Living In This Season wrote on forming friendships as a mom.

Find a creative outlet and use it.
My outlet is blogging which also allows me to tap into my other passions cooking/baking & photography. I feel so much better when I am putting my God-given talents to use and loving others and my family with my gifts. Outlets are also a great way to distract yourself during those long winter months when spending time outside isn’t really possible.

Stop comparing!
I know, I know. It is about 1,000 times easier said than done. Breaking the comparison cycle is hard to do but worth every single effort. Look for things that send you into the comparing spiral and speak truth or cut it out. If Pinterest makes you hate your house and doubt your mommy skills maybe spending less (or no) time on Pinterest might not be such a bad idea. After all I highly doubt you’ll miss feeling bad about yourself.

Focus on things that last.
I think Frances J. Crosby said it best back in 1879

Take the world, but give me Jesus,
All its joys are but a name;
But His love abideth ever,
Through eternal years the same.

Take the world, but give me Jesus;
In His cross my trust shall be,
Till, with clearer, brighter vision,
Face to face my Lord I see.

The direction that my heart is focused or set on always has a profound impact on my outlook on life.
Keeping my mind set, content and in pursuit of living a life that brings God glory is always a good place to position my heart. 

How do you fight against depression?

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