Some of my best post ideas come to me when I’m not even trying to scheme up posts. Todays was no different. I was lying in bed, trying to sleep, when I had the overwhelming urge to share a little more info about where I am as a blogger. If you’ve been following me along, for the past year, I hope you’ve noticed some changes.
#1 I do way less sponsored content. All of the content I do now is because it shows up in my inbox. I no longer look for work.
#2 I went from posting 5-6 days a week to 3 MAYBE 4.
#3 I no longer co-host 85 (kidding) link-ups. I’m less and less stretched and have taken a lot off my plate.
Changes like this came from having some pretty amazing realizations. Ones that I have intensely thought about, AKA wrestled with, for days and weeks on end. Some of the changes have been hard but the others have been really easy. In fact, some of the changes have made me want to change even more!
But the one thing that has been consistent through the whole process is the peace I have felt. I have been way less stressed out & way more content. Those two things make me a MUCH nicer person to be around. Let me share the details on what has worked for me.
I Don’t Need to Post New Content EVERY DAY!
Insert flashing lightbulb here! When I freed myself from posting 5-6 days a week I cut a HUGE amount of work off my load. I realized it was okay to not do it all. Plus I don’t need to anymore since I am blogging with intention instead of just grasping for things to post about.
There was such freedom that came from realizing that if I didn’t blog every week day. The sky wouldn’t fall, my readers wouldn’t think I had fallen in a hole and even better than that, they would still read my blog the next time I posted. Bloggers can disappear and still return. They don’t even need to tell anyone they are taking a day off or apologize for their absence.
If you are like the old me, and this is very hard for you to wrap your brain around, reread it until it sinks in.
It’s Okay to Not Read EVERY Blog, EVERY day.
This one is fairly new for me and I am still working on embracing it, but it has been so good. When talking to a friend about blogging less we wondered what to do about reading other people’s blogs, especially on the days we don’t blog ourselves. All in all we decided to free ourselves from feeling like we had to read every single post that shows up in our BlogLovin feed. It isn’t because we don’t love the blogs in my feed, but it is to embrace the less is more mentality and to actually take a day off from blogging. On the days that I don’t blog I skim through my feed and read what really catches my eye, marking some of the others read.
Know How To Slay Your Monsters.
Bloggers are their own worst enemies. I understand that when you invest time and effort in something it is good to see it grow. But at what point do you say enough and quit beating yourself up over numbers, followers, page views, & pinnable content?!
Want to know a secret? I don’t look at my numbers, EVER. The only numbers I see are follower counts that are displayed on platforms I use. Obsessing over numbers was stealing my joy, so I slayed the monster and put an end to that game.
There Are SO Many Bloggers.
Some people say that blogging is dying, but I am not sure that is true. There are SO many bloggers. If I had a dollar for every time someone brought up wanting to monetize a blog as soon as they hear I’m a blogger, I’d be rich. The truth is, unless you are The Pioneer Woman blogging is famine or feast and free products just don’t pay the bills.
Standing out in the world of blogging is a hard, hard thing to do unless you’ve done something very extreme to set yourself apart. There are countless basic moms just like me out there and the ultimate truth is that I’m not special. But, I’m okay with that. I’ve found my tribe and I will be loyal to them. I don’t need the masses.
There Are WAY more Important Things Than Blogging.
A while back I had the realizations that instead of building a blog, I was building an idol. That felt more like a punch to the gut than anything. After all, I highly doubt there will ever be a day that I wish I had worked harder on the blog. But I have no doubt that I will regret the period of my life that I placed the blog above other way more important things & people.
Scaling back the amount of work that goes into this site has helped me to regain control of where I am investing my time and I am making much wiser choices. If I ever find myself going back to a place where blogging is trumping what truly matters, I will be pulling the plug and calling it quits. Those days are over friends.
I hope this post helps someone. I hope you hear it from the humble place it is meant to come from. I know that what I want may be quite different from others. But I hear so many people so discontent with what blogging has become for them. It doesn’t have to be that way friends.
Tell me one thing you have learned about blogging?
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