Celebrating a Decade of Us!

10 years ago today,in a little town in AR, we said I do.

To have and to hold from this day forward,
For better, for worse,
For richer, for poorer,
In sickness and in health,
To love and to cherish,
Til death do us part.

Now here we are 1 decade, 3 houses, 2 children, COUNTLESS cars, and 1 tornado later. We’ve experienced the good, the hard, and the unexpected. I’m not going to say the past 10 years have been easy, but I will say that the highs have been oh so much higher than the lows and the good has far outweighed the bad.

In honor of our 10th anniversary I thought it would be fun to share 10 ways we make our marriage matter. 10 ways we choose us. After all, it take a whole lot of everyday moments to add up to a decade.

#1 Finding something you both love.

Finding a common interest from a sports team to a hobby is a great way to connect. It gives you something to do and talk about together other than every day life stuff.

#2 Making time for ourselves.

Not only do we find it important to find things to do together, but we also prioritize having time to do the things apart. Typically mine is spent at the gym or clothes shopping. Russ really doesn’t enjoy shopping so he is more than happy to hand over the title of “shopping buddy” to Anna.

#3 Marriage > Kids

This one is SO hard, nearly impossible with kids under the age of five, but it’s one that we have worked on as the girls have grown older. From not allowing them to interrupt our conversations, trying to have regular date nights, and making sure their bed time is a priority. We work to protect our marriage, even from our own kids at times.

#4 Little surprises & notes.

Few things make me feel more loved than being thought of. Love notes, texts, photos, and small surprises all speak love. Look for ways to let the other person know just how important they are to you.

#5 Hello with a kiss.

When Russ walks in the door and greets me with a kiss, I swoon a little. Make each other swoon.

#6 Unwind Together

Every night we try to spend time talking, reading, or watching TV, together. Even if it is just for 20 minutes. These quiet moments, that often include ice cream, are my favorite part of the day. If we miss a day or two of unwinding together we both tend to get grumpy. 

#7 Be clear with expectations

The worst fights we’ve ever had came from unmet expectations. When one of us assumed the other knew what we wanted or had the ability to read our mind. It took me nearly 10 years to figure out if I want something, I need to tell him.

#8 I forgive you means you are forgiven.

Forgive and forget. Those 3 words aren’t easy, but they are important. Russ and I will fail each other, but if one of us keeps throwing the mistakes of our past back at the other person we won’t be able to overcome them and move forward.

#9 Laughter is good medicine.

We have an unspoken rule that when life feels heavy we try to find a way to laugh together. Russ is particular gifted at this. I could be in the worst of moods but he always finds the bright side and brings me back around. The seasons when we neglected to laugh together have been some of the hardest ones of our marriage. Find joy in every situation friends. Even when it feels there is none.

#10 Christ Centered

Keeping Christ at the center of our marriage has been the key to keeping us rooted in good times and bad. By praying with each other, for each other, and constantly speaking life we thrive.

Happy Anniversary Russell Todd Newman!
I can’t wait to be your Mrs. for another 10 years. 

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  • Living on Cloud Nine

    Happy Anniversary Russell and Beth!! You are both beautiful and I know the BEST parents. Way to set an example with a Christ centered marriage for those lovely girls!! Spot on advice and tips that have kept myself and Mr. Nine thriving all these years, especially the laughter, oh the laughter!!! xoxoxo

    • The laughter is one of my favorite parts for sure. Thank you so much for your sweet anniversary wish. I hope you have been having a god weekend girl. I have been thinking about you a lot over the past week.

  • Jessica

    Happy anniversary to you love birds!! I love all of the photos so much and your words of wisdom are right on. 🙂 Hope you two get a date night this weekend.

    • Thank you so much Jess. We had a great weekend full of celebrating. Makes me a bit sad to get back to work tomorrow.

  • Amy Smith

    Happy Anniversary! Hope you make a weekend out of celebrating!

    • We did Amy. In fact we are still celebrating a bit today!

  • Lizzie Simantz

    Happy Anniversary Lovebirds!!! Love all of this so much!! I have to say, the worst fights we’ve had have also been from one of us (ahem, me) thinking we should read each others minds about things.

    • Oh friend. I am SO happy to hear you chime in and agree on this one. I now only wis that I had figured this one out a long time ago. It would’ve been so much easier if I had.

  • HAPPY HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!! Wishing you 10 x 10 x 10 more!! Have fun celebrating!!

    • Thank you, thank you! We had a blast as always.

  • Happy Anniversary! You guys are goals! 🙂

  • Is that last photo from your wedding day? Adorable! This reminds me of Jenna’s post yesterday for her 12th anniversary! We are all so alike and I just love that. Happy, happy, happy anniversary you sweet couple! Here’s to so many, many more! XOXO!

    • I know, right?! I laughed so hard when I read her post and left a comment promising that I wrote this over a week ago and hadn’t stolen her idea, lololol! So fun to have so many like minds. Thank you so much friend.

    • Oh! And yes, it is. We totally eloped. No fancy dress, no fancy photos. Kind of makes me sad really, but in other ways I wouldn’t change a thing.

  • Love these pictures! And #7…are you telling me he will never learn to read my mind? Blah…I am still working on this one 16 years later. Happy Anniversary!

    • Baha ha! Well if your guy is anything like mine, that is a skill he’ll likely never have. HA! I say that in love, really I do. I am just glad I finally figured #7 out.

  • Heather Bramlett

    What great pictures~~ Happy Anniversary! We celebrate 14 years next month!

    • So exciting! I hope y’all are planning something fun.

  • Whitney Jordan

    Happy Anniversary!! I love your tips. From greeting each other with a kiss, to unwinding together at night and communicating expectations. Such good advice!!

    • Oh the expectations one is SO big. Especially once you have been married long enough to feel super comfortable with each other too. Thanks Whitney.

  • Happy Anniversary! Definitely agree with all of these- especially the laughter and swoonage!

    • The swoonage, lol! Heck yes. Gotta have that. Thank you so much.

  • I saw your date night pictures! So fun 🙂 We just celebrated 19 on Monday. It’s crazy how fast it goes by when you are with your BF 🙂

    • Girl I swear all of my favorite couples got married in August. So much for spring weddings! 19 years, congratulations friend #goals.

  • Jenn

    Happy Anniversary! We just celebrated our 10 year, also! 🙂

    • Oh how fun is that! Congratulations to you too!

  • Happy Anniversary to you both! I love that you were able to sneak in a date night. I agree with so much of this post. I especially love the tip of making your marriage priority even with kids. You are so right when you state it is nearly impossible to do this when you have kiddos under the age of 5. That was spot on. I feel like in the last year Brandon and I have made this HUGE curve and are able to get in more date nights, more time alone, but also our kids are understanding not to interrupt our conversations, and like to see us in love. I love and agree with everything in this post!

    • Thank you so much sweet friend. I am also starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel that we are only a few years away from being able to leave them home alone, glory!

  • Awwww happy anniversary! Great tips! We have really been working on us over kids. The trip to Mexico definitely helped us get back on track!

    • I can’t even imagine how amazing that trip must have been. We haven’t had a night away from our girls in over a year now! Not because we don’t want to either, we just don’t have a sitter :(.

  • You two are my favorites. I love your story, I love your family. Happy 10th Rusty and Jan!

  • Happy anniversary you two lovebirds!! You two are adorable. These are such great tips.

    • Thank you so much sweet friend. We had a great time celebrating!