10 years ago today,in a little town in AR, we said I do.
To have and to hold from this day forward,
For better, for worse,
For richer, for poorer,
In sickness and in health,
To love and to cherish,
Til death do us part.
Now here we are 1 decade, 3 houses, 2 children, COUNTLESS cars, and 1 tornado later. We’ve experienced the good, the hard, and the unexpected. I’m not going to say the past 10 years have been easy, but I will say that the highs have been oh so much higher than the lows and the good has far outweighed the bad.
In honor of our 10th anniversary I thought it would be fun to share 10 ways we make our marriage matter. 10 ways we choose us. After all, it take a whole lot of everyday moments to add up to a decade.
#1 Finding something you both love.
Finding a common interest from a sports team to a hobby is a great way to connect. It gives you something to do and talk about together other than every day life stuff.
#2 Making time for ourselves.
Not only do we find it important to find things to do together, but we also prioritize having time to do the things apart. Typically mine is spent at the gym or clothes shopping. Russ really doesn’t enjoy shopping so he is more than happy to hand over the title of “shopping buddy” to Anna.
#3 Marriage > Kids
This one is SO hard, nearly impossible with kids under the age of five, but it’s one that we have worked on as the girls have grown older. From not allowing them to interrupt our conversations, trying to have regular date nights, and making sure their bed time is a priority. We work to protect our marriage, even from our own kids at times.
#4 Little surprises & notes.
Few things make me feel more loved than being thought of. Love notes, texts, photos, and small surprises all speak love. Look for ways to let the other person know just how important they are to you.
#5 Hello with a kiss.
When Russ walks in the door and greets me with a kiss, I swoon a little. Make each other swoon.
#6 Unwind Together
Every night we try to spend time talking, reading, or watching TV, together. Even if it is just for 20 minutes. These quiet moments, that often include ice cream, are my favorite part of the day. If we miss a day or two of unwinding together we both tend to get grumpy.
#7 Be clear with expectations
The worst fights we’ve ever had came from unmet expectations. When one of us assumed the other knew what we wanted or had the ability to read our mind. It took me nearly 10 years to figure out if I want something, I need to tell him.
#8 I forgive you means you are forgiven.
Forgive and forget. Those 3 words aren’t easy, but they are important. Russ and I will fail each other, but if one of us keeps throwing the mistakes of our past back at the other person we won’t be able to overcome them and move forward.
#9 Laughter is good medicine.
We have an unspoken rule that when life feels heavy we try to find a way to laugh together. Russ is particular gifted at this. I could be in the worst of moods but he always finds the bright side and brings me back around. The seasons when we neglected to laugh together have been some of the hardest ones of our marriage. Find joy in every situation friends. Even when it feels there is none.
#10 Christ Centered
Keeping Christ at the center of our marriage has been the key to keeping us rooted in good times and bad. By praying with each other, for each other, and constantly speaking life we thrive.
Happy Anniversary Russell Todd Newman!
I can’t wait to be your Mrs. for another 10 years.
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