I’ve said it before and I know I will say it probably 100 times again.
I never planned or expected to be a homeschool mom.
If you’ve read any of our story, you would know that I never wanted to homeschool my girls. I would even say that I was anti-homeschooling for several years. Oh how God can change our hearts.
We are getting ready to wrap up our 3rd year of homeschooling. We miraculously survived kindergarten, first and are just about finished with second grade. Time flies when you’re having fun. Homeschooling is all my girls have ever known and it has definitely been a learning experience for our family as a whole. Today I want to talk about some wins and losses that I have learned over 3 years of homeschooling.
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I’d also like to say that even if you’re not a homeschool parent I think you will definitely find something to relate too.
Let’s start with the “negatives”. I always prefer the bad news first ;).
I will also preface the list by saying pretty much every negative on this list could be translated as a positive too.
1) There is no set standard of achievement or failure.
Marissa doesn’t get a report card. I can’t look at the work of her peers and think oh man, my kid is awesome (or the opposite). There is nobody to compare Marissa to other than herself and the testing that she does once a year giving me a general idea of where she fits into the big picture. Not having a set scale can make it SO hard to know if we are doing a good job.
2) My kids are with me ALL the time.
I’m teacher and I’m mommy. They get a great big dose of me all day long and when I am having a bad day or floundering a bit, EVERYONE feels it.
3) They don’t get the benefits of feeding off of their peers consistently.
You can learn so much from group discussions and hearing others ideas and thoughts on something. That is really hard to replicate on a daily basis at this stage of our homeschooling.
Marissa has always been a bit shy and awkward around others. Sometimes I feel like homeschooling isn’t doing her any help in that area. We try to keep her active and social, but I’m not sure if it is enough to help her overcome her shyness.
5) Expectations can easily be made too high.
One of my very favorite parts of homeschooling also turns into a rope that I can easily hang myself with, the freedom to work at an advanced rate. I have learned over the years that homeschool standards are set higher than public school standards, usually a full year ahead or more. Add that to a kid who is on the young side of the grade she is in and it can be a hard combination. I can expect an unobtainable level of perfection from her or I set the bar even higher than it already is and get flustered when things don’t click. I have had to remind myself, often with the help of others, that I need to CHILL OUT! Marissa is doing exceedingly well. Don’t put unnecessary pressure on her to do even better. It helps NOBODY.
Now onto happier things.
1) We can design education the way we see fit.
The lesson plans in homeschooling are completely up to us. If we want to spend a whole year studying anatomy, we can. If Marissa needs extra help in English, okay. If she is really into a book series and we decide to read them all, why not?! Homeschool is a one of a kind custom fit education that you can precisely tailor to fit your childs needs and likes. I can teach my child exactly what I want and don’t have to worry about them being taught things and perspectives that we don’t believe in. There is plenty of time do address those, just not in the second grade.
2) Homeschooling brings flexibility.
From bad days to cabin fever the options that we have are endless. We are free to teach when and where we want. We can also design our school year to be what we want, not what we are given.
3) We stay in the loop.
We know what is going on in her education and life because we are putting it there. I remember countless days of “What did you learn/ do at Pre-school today?” and her constant “I don’t know”. School now moves into all areas of our life and I never feel clueless.
4) I can teach from a gospel perspective.
From science and history, Bible class, praying and dealing with discipline issues. We can teach our daughters in a way that points them to grace and the powerful truth of The Gospel.
5) We get to be the “homeschool” family
Okay I threw this one in there for comedic reasons but you all know that family. It seems like everyone that isn’t a home school family knows one and will instantly bring them up when they find out that you homeschool. I can’t even tell you how many times this has happened to me.
And just for the record, I love being that family!
We will always proudly be your “weird” homeschool friends.
If you have any question about any thing homeschool related feel free to leave me a comment or send me an email. I would love to chat more with you about things.
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